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  Update: part 2, elder's counsel to mom to quit "bad association"

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  well because i knew the questions would be the same on saturday as they were friday i was even more prepared.

  my mom has this pattern of repeating the same questions over and over again...she will leave it for a few hours & then she will cycle them over again, but then ask more detail.. so saturday she calls me before i leave for home and now she is backpedalling her story.

  she tells me that the elder's never said that they were going to disfellowship me, they just were counseling her that she should no longer be associating with me because i am bad association and have been seen with "him" (again with the him) and that his car has been seen parked there all the time.

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  Update:Elders still using passive/agressive & Confrontation with JW mom

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  well, i am glad my brother called and forwarned me this was comming...i got to come on here and get so much good advise from you people.

  it actually started friday nite....my door bell was buzzing at 7pm, this time they parked their car so that they thought i couldn't see it but i climbed up my kitchen counter and could see the rear end of the car by peeking out that window.

  it was the same elder as before.. an hour after that: must be mom couldn't stand it anymore & she called me crying.

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  To my ex JW ex-husband....if you are out there on JWN

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  i often wonder if you are here somewhere amongst the cool avatars and catchy screen names...it killed me 5 years ago when you ran away.....i felt as if i was shattered and would never be whole again.

  and if i had stayed in the borg....that would still be the case....alone i was dying inside slowly....the borg was drowning me in duty, loyalty to the organization, isolation, spiritual hunger, thirst for understanding- i had to leave too, i just didn't do it quite as dramatically as you did.. i don't know why you still feel the need to remain "missing" after all these years.... i just want you to know that i was tired of hanging on to the hurt and pain over you...i let it go when i left the borg.

  and all i want for you now is peace & i pray that you are okay and safe, wherever you are..... chg.

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  Got My Nose Pierced Yesterday

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  2. experiences

  well since i cant grow a beard, dont have the patience for dread-locks, and do not want anything permanent like a tatoo yet..... i enjoyed the experience, never been in a tatoo parlor, this looks understated, not painful & everyone hates my new nose "glitter" which i find kinda funny.

  i don't see it being a permanent thing with me, but i always wanted one, and you never know if you don't try..... just one more step in the independent direction of making my own choices-.

  btw i also registered to vote last week!.

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  Wish Coffee House Guy safe travels to South Africa!

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  my boyfriend left today for a 17 day trip to johannesburg south africa as part of a charity group to help provide blankets and clothes to people in outlining areas, and give support for aids victims there..... this is the first time we have been apart since september, i miss him already but he is doing so much good and he has such a loving heart.

  i love you baby, come back to me safe .

  chg.

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  Got a DC invite in my door last week!

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  i got one shoved under my door and i even have a "no trespassing" sign on my door what the heck???.

  i thought they couldn't leave literature if there was a no trespassing sign posted???

  am i wrong?.

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  Does it sound like a "cop out" when...

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  one of my really good jw friends (which now means he can no longer be my friend) came into the shop i work in today with two other jw's to buy some guitar strings and things- i could tell he was uncomfortable walking in the shop (he hesitated at the door) and i was on the phone so i couldn't wait on them personally so all i could think of to do is make a smart ass comment about his hair cut.. they made their purchase & walked out we smiled and waved to each other.. he obviously did not buy anything and they all know where i work, so he just came in to check me out (not in a flirty way).. he has always been a bit on the "edge" when it comes to jw practices (watches r rated movies, listens to "bad" music, drinks, and he does text me occasionally to talk about music and un-jw related subjects).

  should i have tried to reach him with the truth about the truth?.

  i ponder this question lately with some of my loved ones so i will ask you all........ if i could be reached by talking rationally with me to look further into the religion i was blindly following- should i try reaching someone i care about?.

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  Are any of you addicted to your new sexual revolution?

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  now that i am free from my bonds to an organization dictating to me what i can and cannot do (in bed included), i cannot stop.....i feel like an addict on coke or something, i have been with my bf for eight months now, and perhaps it is a combination of the newness of a sexual relationship with the release from my spiritual bonds, but....i feel like a cat in heat 24/7.

  of course my bf is not complaining even though i see he is physically tired parts of the day that i actually leave him alone (to go to work or sleep after hours of lovemaking).

  i wonder if anyone else has gone through similar experience.

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  what were your meetings for field service experiences?

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  my mom (still in the borg) was telling me about going out with the c.o and his wife this week in field service & i started re-living the horror show that would go on during saturday meetings for field service-.

  ah... the dreaded splitting up into car groups... i always felt like we were in gym class being grouped together for a game of dodgeball-.

  the co and elders were the team captains and we would line up for the count.

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  Letter to Mom

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  just in case there are any faders that need help breaking the news:.

  i am posting this letter i left with my mother after i explained to her in person that i no longer wanted to be "in the truth".

  you are not to blame, you cant make choices for me any more, only i can.. .

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